Ban on same-sex marriage fails in Arizona Senate

Ron and I lived in Arizona for six years and we still have lots of friends there, so I was glad to read this on azcentral.com:

The Arizona Senate has rejected a proposal that would have asked voters to amend the state constitution to prohibit same-sex marriage.

The 14-11 vote fell two votes shy of what was required to send the proposal to the November ballot. Senators later voted to reconsider the measure at another unspecified date.

I think I’ve already mentioned this, but Texas has both a statutory ban on same-sex marriage and a voter-approved constitutional ban. Which pretty much rules out having our marriage recognized by any kind of government authority in Texas any time soon.

(Via Towleroad.)

Marriage shouldn’t be government’s concern? Really?

Here’s a semi-bizarre, though favorable, editorial on marriage equality in the Orange County Register:

Our preference would be for the government not to be involved in marriage, the most fundamental of institutions in a civil society. Why two people who want to be married should be required to get a license from the state is something of a mystery. Marriage existed long before the California or U.S. governments came into being and will continue long after they have been consigned to history. Whether a marriage is valid should be up to the people involved and the churches, synagogues, mosques or other religious institutions that choose to perform them or not.

Can the editorialist really think the reason for state licensing of marriage is mysterious? Simply having the marriage recorded by the state makes the process worthwhile — certainly to the participants, but also to the state, which must also deal with inheritance, divorce, and other processes that marriage law provides rules for handling.

More naiveté:

Over time same-sex couples will find, as has been the case in Massachusetts, where such marriages have been legal for four years, (and as heterosexual couples know all too well) that marriage is not always easy. Married people disagree about all kinds of things, from money to recreational preferences, and have to find ways to work out their differences.

Gee…does the writer really think same-sex couples have been spared this because up to now there hasn’t been a government stamp of approval on our relationships?

Happy 75th, Clarabelle and Ross

We’re big fans of long marriages — Bill’s parents were married for almost 53 years and Ron’s for just under 50 — so we’re happy to see this story in the Daily Times about Ross and Clarabelle Snodgrass, who are celebrating their 75th wedding anniversary on July 1.

Clarabelle recounts meeting Ross:

“When I was a teenager, me and some friends went to a dance at the community theater building in Comfort that housed a basketball court, a dance floor and a picture screen. It’s where all the community things happened,” she remembered. “Ross and his brother came to the dance without any dates. We talked some and danced a few times that night.

“I remember going home that night and saying ‘that’s the man I’m going to marry,’” she said.

Date is set

July 1, 2008, in Santa Ana, CA. Nothing magic about the date or place, it’s just convenient.

We’ll be having some kind of large gathering later in the year, and we’re also in the process of picking our honeymoon spot. Stay tuned.

Two other grooms, who used to be in Texas

UPDATE: White writes about his wedding here.

Great post from Dave White about his upcoming wedding:

I admit that I was somewhat thoughtless in that I had to be asked to sit next to him while he did it. He decided it was a nice moment of togetherness for us to watch the computer screen together. I wasn’t reluctant to agree; it just didn’t occur to me to think it up first. And it did feel kind of like a historic moment when he typed my name into the ‘Party A’ box and his name into the ‘Party B’ box. Back in Texas in 1997 when we got Not-Married and we registered for gifts, we’d always flip a coin to see who was bride and who was groom.

I still vividly remember White’s account of the above-mentioned not-wedding in Instinct. The event took place in Dallas, at the Lakewood Theater, a hop, skip, and a jump from where Ron was living at the time. Also, White said that his ideal wedding band would be Yo La Tengo. That made a big impression on me at the time.

Setting a date

August 22 was unavailable, alas, but we’ve picked a date and are beginning our plans on that basis.

I won’t disclose the date or location just yet…there are still a lot of people we want to tell personally. Nonetheless, I’m happy to say that plans are going forward, reservations made, suppliers contacted. It’s just getting a little more real all the time.

Today’s the day in California

Towleroad link roundup here, starting with this symbolically important item: “At 5:01pm today, history will be made as gay and lesbian couples begin marrying in California, led symbolically by the marriage of Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon, the couple of 50 years who were first married in San Francisco City Hall in 2004.”

Our love and best wishes to everyone who’s marrying, today and every day, but especially to Del and Phyllis.

Congratulations…

…to Episcopal Bishop Gene Robinson and his partner of 20 years, Mark Andrew, who were civilized over the weekend in New Hampshire.

Our best wishes go to the newlyweds.

(Via Towleroad.)

Just getting started

Shortly after the California Supreme Court handed down its decision and it was clear that the state would allow nonresident couples like us to marry, Ron and I decided that we would marry in California sometime this summer.

We’re just beginning the process, and this blog is designed to document the steps along the way. We haven’t even chosen a date or a place. August 22 (the anniversary of the day we met in 1994) in San Francisco seems natural…but this may not be possible. We’ll just have to see.