California earthquake

Ron just called me in from the other room. He was on the phone with a colleague who works in Ontario, California, and in the middle of a sentence she suddenly exclaimed, “Oh my god, Ron, oh @#$%!” and dropped the phone.

Ron then heard what sounded like things falling to the floor and the buzzing of anxious, confused people in the hall before Amy came back and said that there had just been an earthquake, that it was the worst she’d ever experienced, and that she was damn well going to get out of the building as quickly as possible, especially because she was on the top floor.

The magnitude of the quake is estimated at 5.8 and it’s reported that the epicenter was near Chino Hills, which is less than 15 miles away from where Amy works.

So far, only minor injuries and damage have been reported; I hope nothing worse has happened or will happen.

[Cross-posted to “Blog” Thingie.]

Day 2, Part 2: Dana Point, California

After the ceremony, Ron and I drove from the courthouse in Santa Ana to the resort we were staying at in Dana Point, just down the road from Laguna Beach.

Our room had a bay window overlooking the ocean.

After we got settled, we decided to wander around a bit, starting with the spa. (We made reservations for the next day. And the day after.) Then we walked around the grounds and eventually made our way upstairs to the bar for much-needed cocktails, then consulted with the concierge (a nice French lady named Maggy) about dinner that night. She told us that the restaurant on the property would be perfect for a wedding-night dinner, so we had her make a reservation for us.

The restaurant exceeded our expectations: the food and wine were both excellent, and Maggy had notified the kitchen that we were newlyweds; we ended up receiving an amuse-bouche, a bowl of lobster bisque, and a plate of scallops in addition to my rack of lamb and Ron’s scallops — pan-seared this time. And a lovely pinot noir.

To top it off, a large group across from us on the patio saved us from the sin of eavesdropping by talking just loudly enough that we couldn’t help but hear. Some of it was fun, but I learned more than I wanted to know about medical malpractice insurance.

When we got back to our room, we found a bottle of champagne and four chocolate-covered strawberries on the bar (thanks, Maggy!), but we were done for the day and ready to go to sleep.

Massachusetts gets rid of an antiquated law

Via the NY Times, great news from Massachusetts:

Massachusetts may have been the first state to legalize same-sex marriage for its residents, but when California last month invited out-of-state gay and lesbian couples to get married, the potential economic benefits did not go unnoticed here. Now Massachusetts wants to extend the same invitation.

On Tuesday, the State Senate voted to repeal a 1913 law that prevents Massachusetts from marrying out-of-state couples if their marriages would not be legal in their home states. The repeal, which passed with no objections on a voice vote, is expected to pass the House later this week.

The law is apparently a relic of the days when interracial marriages weren’t recognized in some states and as such is way past its useful life.

Thanks to Kelly Murdock-Billy for passing this along.

Prosecution for married couples?

Wisconsin has a law, going back to 1915, that’s meant to keep underage couples from marrying in another state, but its provisions might apply to same-sex marriages contracted in California.

The Madison, Wis., Capital Times reports:

Wisconsin is a state that imposes criminal penalties on residents if they enter a marriage outside the state that would be prohibited in the state. The law was created to prohibit underage couples from crossing state lines to marry, but it could be interpreted to apply to same-sex marriages, according to Glenn Carlson of Fair Wisconsin, an advocacy group for gays and lesbians. In Wisconsin, the penalty is a fine of up to $10,000, nine months in prison, or both.

Of course that’s highly conjectural, and you notice that there’s no quote from any kind of public official indicating that any jurisdiction in Wisconsin thinks prosecuting anybody under this law is worth doing. It should scarcely be worthy of note, but Julaine Appling, executive director of the Wisconsin Family Council enthusiastically advocates this kind of prosecution, claiming, “That’s a defrauding of the government.” (Video here.)

And we wish you all the happiness in the world too, Julaine.

(Via Bilerico and Good as You.)

Ron’s announcement

Ron sent this e-mail to family and friends last week:

Hi everybody,

As most of you already know, Bill and I got married in Santa Ana, CA on July 1. I had to be in Anaheim the last week of June for the American Library Association Annual Conference and it just made sense for us to get married then rather than try to work with everyone’s schedules and pick a date. Bill flew out to CA on June 30 and we got married by a magistrate at the historic Santa Ana Courthouse in a nice little ceremony. Then we drove down to Dana Point and spent July 1 – July 5 there and out on Catalina Island. We had a fantastic time.

Even though Texas does not recognize our marriage we felt it was important for us take this step. Bill and I are legally married in California and the marriage is recognized by the states of New York & Massachusetts. Other states such as New Jersey, Oregon, Washington, New Mexico, Iowa, Connecticut, Vermont, New Hampshire, Rhode Island and Maine appear likely to support recognition of same-sex marriage at some level. As we celebrate all things American during the month of our nation’s Independence Day, particularly our founding principles of freedom and fairness, a recently released study finds that indeed people who enjoy more freedom tend to be happier.

Connecting the dots, George Rodriguez writes an article in the Los Angeles Times, “Gay marriage: the key to happiness?” and says, “How exactly, you ask, is gay marriage connected with ‘life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness’?…social tolerance ‘broadens the range of choices available to people,’ thereby enhancing happiness for both the tolerant and the intolerant alike.”

Even after 14 anniversaries, Bill and I felt a new joy as we got a marriage license, said our vows and re-exchanged the rings we had made in Cabo San Lucas several years ago. All of us together are an extended family where none of us have to give up our differences or hide them in order to be loved and treated equally. Imagine, by the time Dylan and Lane [now toddlers] are adults even the state of Texas may recognize the marriage of their great-uncles RP & Billiam.

Day 2: The Big Day is upon us

Our day started with a large breakfast, served by a nice but possibly too loquacious waitress who thought it was totally cool that we’d come all the way to California to get married, then loaded up and headed for the courthouse in Santa Ana.

Google directions can be a bit vague; also, I was a little less careful than I should have been and only got directions to the approximate location of the courthouse. It took us twice as long as it should have for us to get there.

However, since we’d left so far ahead of time to begin with, it was still barely 1 pm, and our appointment wasn’t until 2:30. Breakfast had been so egregiously large we couldn’t even consider lunch. We had time to do a little exploring. Presently we found ourselves in the nearest Nordstrom’s, where we whiled away the minutes until we had to get back to the courthouse.

I get turned around, so don’t take this as gospel, but I think the second-story left window is the office we got married in. But I’m getting ahead of myself.

Getting married, it turns out, isn’t entirely unlike renewing your car’s registration. You write your names on a sign-in sheet; you wait; every so often someone calls one set of names, not necessarily in order; and eventually your names are called.

From then on, the process goes quickly. I remember consciously trying to commit every detail to memory. It worked, just a little. I do remember the copier supplies in boxes arrayed behind the desk, but I don’t remember what seventies hit was playing on the radio as we did our duty to the bureaucrats of Orange County.

Anyway, the lady sat down at her desk and the two of us sat across from her. I was on the left, Ron was on the right. We had printouts of our paperwork, but she didn’t need it. She confirmed the information she saw on the monitor in front of her and made a few entries. We attested that we were who we claimed to be. She asked where we were from and we told her while she printed some papers out. Then she folded the papers, put them in an envelope, and led us to a tiny chapel in a corner of the office, just large enough to hold us, an officiant, and, at most, five or six guests.

While we were waiting, we each took our rings off and handed them to the other. After a minute or two a young Latino man in dark robes came in, carrying the information the lady had printed out; he was our officiant.

We stood in front of his lectern as he read the ceremony and led us in our vows, pausing occasionally so he wouldn’t call one of us by the wrong name. Ron put my ring on my finger and I put his on his. “You may kiss each other,” said the young man, and so we did.

It took only a few minutes. After the officiant told us what we had to do to obtain a copy of the marriage license, he took a couple of pictures for us. This is the better one:

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After the ceremony, we spent about half an hour walking around the courthouse grounds taking pictures. Then we drove off to a lovely resort in Dana Point (which is right down the road from Laguna Beach) for our honeymoon. More on that in the next post.

Day 1: Bill goes to California

Very soon after I posted my last post, I locked the doors, made sure we still had three cats, loaded suitcases into the car, and drove to the San Antonio airport.

Ron’s the airport expert, but he’s taught me well, I think — I parked no farther from the terminal than absolutely necessary and got through security in reasonable time.

After the flight, which I mostly slept through, I came out of the terminal in Ontario, expecting cool California breezes that would be a relief after hot, muggy south Texas. This hope was sadly dashed — it was actually a couple of degrees hotter in Ontario than in San Antonio. Drier, but hotter.

This is the view as I waited for the airport shuttle, by the way. Except for the New Orleans airport terminal, nine months after Katrina, I’ve never seen a less busy major airport.

The drive to Anaheim only took about 45 minutes, way less than I’d expected. Good — my body was still on Central time and I was ready for dinner. I was glad to see some of Ron’s colleagues I don’t get to see often (and finally met one who I’d never crossed paths with — hi, Mike), but by the time we got back to the room I was definitely ready to go to bed.

Tomorrow’s the day

I’ve got the bags all packed, the cat-sitter’s confirmed to come in while we’re gone, and the last few naggling little household chores have been done.

Travel arrangements have been confirmed, boarding passes printed out, transaction numbers recorded, and maps and directions obtained.

I’ve been stressing, but all the little pieces are falling into place as planned. Now it’s time to scout around and make sure nothing’s forgotten. Then I’m out the door for my flight to California.

The Big Event is tomorrow at 2:30 PDT. Chances are I won’t be posting until I get back, but then I promise an account of the ceremony and, with luck, some pictures.

June 30, 2008Permalink 2 Comments

AZ Senate puts gay marriage proposal on ballot

I spoke too soon. After the measure was first defeated, Arizona’s state senate has approved the anti–same-sex-marriage amendment.

From the Arizona Republic:

In the final hours of one of the longest state legislative sessions on record, state Senators approved a measure sending a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage to the fall ballot.

Some time-consuming politicking appears to have been involved.

The long-anticipated vote on the measure followed hours of angry, raucous debate, in which the legislative rule book was used as a weapon to both stall the vote and cut short debate. Senators on both sides of the aisle and the issue lamented a melt-down in the higher chamber, as most of the day’s work was scrapped so that the marriage amendment could be voted on while key senators were present.

So the Senate spent the last few hours of its session sending something for voter approval that’s already been decided…and even members think the time could have been better spent. Lovely.

Okay, you folks in Arizona, you know what you have to do.

(Via Pandagon.)

So far, so good

Travel plans have been made, appointments confirmed, bags are starting to be packed, and I understand that appropriate clothing is in the works as well.

Really, there’s not all that much that needs to be done, both by design and necessity. Even if we’d wanted a fancy, foofy wedding — and we don’t — getting all those planets to line up before election day, by remote control, seems more trouble than it’s worth.

So we’re doing the planning and management with checklists rather than those plan-your-own-wedding books that occupy shelf upon shelf in the local bookstore. I looked at one book that seemed promising — it even had the word “elopement” in the title — but the first page I turned to dwelt at unseemly length on the merits of multiple attendants. Some elopement.

Every day’s a little more exciting. I just hope I don’t commence to blubbering at the courthouse on Tuesday.